A year on. by Mialy DeFelice

"These four lonely walls have changed the way I feel
The way I feel
I'm standing still
And nothing else matters now, you're not here
So where are you?
I've been callin' you
I'm missin' you

Where else can I go? Where else can I go?
Chasin' you, chasin' you
Memories turn to dust
Please don't bury us, I got you
I got you"

I had originally planned to write more. But I can't. Its just too sad, and too personal to share here.  I love her and I miss her constantly.  Our hearts are broken.

Last weekend we got little tattoos for Jenna. XXVIII. Cause it breaks my heart that she only made it that far, and because I always want to remember to live my life with the vigor she did. She lived a life that was full of authenticity thats all anybody can ask for.  (in a light hearted side note, do you notice emerson has folded over the top of that chair to fashion his own little bed over top of that black little lump in the chair that is Matisse ;))

Last weekend we got little tattoos for Jenna. XXVIII. Cause it breaks my heart that she only made it that far, and because I always want to remember to live my life with the vigor she did. She lived a life that was full of authenticity thats all anybody can ask for.  (in a light hearted side note, do you notice emerson has folded over the top of that chair to fashion his own little bed over top of that black little lump in the chair that is Matisse ;))

Europe, 2016. Berlin, Prague, Dubrovnik. by Mialy DeFelice

Leaving SF.

Leaving SF.

So again, my apologies for being the worst 'blogger' ever. I have had a very travel filled summer and finally have my feet firmly planted in California, and am going to try to catch up with posting the photos from our trips. First up is our trip to Europe. We went to Berlin, Prague, and Dubrovnik. Very excitingly, I also embedded an interactive map to the bottom of this post, where you can see a bunch of places that we liked in each city, it is by no means exhaustive (I didn't really keep up with a lot of the things we did), but I think think its fun, cause you can see some of the places we went :).

Berlin, Germany

The corner near where we stayed.

The corner near where we stayed.

We actually liked Berlin quite a bit. We stayed for 4 days in Mitte, which was within walking distance of everything we wanted to see. We seriously walked everywhere, but its not something I would necessairly recommend. One day we accidentally walked like 16 miles. It was not the best. Also, we were there on some scorchingly hot days. It was intense. Not something I even anticipated would happen given how northern it is.

I was kind of obsessed with how graffiti filled Berlin was. It was beautiful how it really blended and added to the charm of the city.

Since the only place we had been in Germany we had been to before was Munich, I had been expecting the food in Berlin to be just as meat heavy and well... German, but the food, suprisingly, wasn't like that at all. It was our best food experience our entire trip. It was really ethnically diverse, and we didn't have any trouble finding some really cool places to go. Also we consumed a lot of sorbet and gelato here due to the insane heat.

We basically spent one entire day walking to museums and sights (Gemäldegalerie, the Holocaust Memorial, Brandenburg Gate, and Museum Island). Prior to going I don't think I would have thought we would have spent so much time in Museums, but that day was insanely hot, my body was threatening to melt the entire time, and then the rain came... so we went indoors. I'm pretty glad we did too. The Gemäldegalerie was just such a beautiful collection. And Museum Island was great as well. We went to two of the musuems (Pergamon & Neues) there that were more history museums, and were absolutely stunning, especially the Pergamon, which boasted some huge achetectural installations including the Ishtar Gate (one of the gates to Babylon), and the Market Gate of Miletus.

The actual reason we went to Berlin was for the shopping, but very disappointingly we didn't find the trendy shopping area of Mitte till the last day, and unbeknownst to us everything is closed on Sundays. Live and learn, and now you know...No shopping is to be had in Berlin on Sunday.

On the train to Prague, on a train with a compartment (btw, he is playing Pokemon,  BEFORE  pokemon go even came out, on an old school Nintendo, that couldn't even be charged there.

On the train to Prague, on a train with a compartment (btw, he is playing Pokemon, BEFORE pokemon go even came out, on an old school Nintendo, that couldn't even be charged there.

Prague, Czech Republic

View from Pražský Hrad overlooking the city.    

View from Pražský Hrad overlooking the city. 

 

So. Prague. Eric really really wanted to go to Prague. I was indifferent, but basically our entire trip was centered around going there. But I have to say, I don't think it quite lived up to the hype. And there is a lot of hype surrounding Prague. So while, I thought it was perfectly nice, and cute, I basically just want to temper people expectations. It is extremely crowded and super touristy. I think if you are wanting to go to Prague to get that quintessential "european city" feel, I would say that Vienna is probably closer to your expectations. (For the record note: we went to Prague in the summer which is notoriously busy for Europe, and went to Vienna in the winter... so take a HUGE grain of salt with everything I just said).

Our beautiful hotel. I wish I could have gotten better pictures, but it was sort of impossible. But I highly recommend BoHo Hotel if you are ever in Prague. 

Our beautiful hotel. I wish I could have gotten better pictures, but it was sort of impossible. But I highly recommend BoHo Hotel if you are ever in Prague. 

All that said, Prague was pretty picturesque in its own way. We went to a castle overlooking the city, which afforded great views, and we generally just spent a lot of time walking around. We spent 3 days in Prague and I think that was enough to see all the sites, and still have a lot of time leftover (if youre in a pinch I think 2 days is good).

Trdelnik (sort of a doughnuty thing)  filled with a custard ice cream. Hiding from the crazy rain in a doorway.

Trdelnik (sort of a doughnuty thing)  filled with a custard ice cream. Hiding from the crazy rain in a doorway.

Dubrovnik, Croatia

A look from the walls.

A look from the walls.

We spent four days in Dubrovnik, and it was the real highlight of the trip. I basically added it on, cause I always think its fun to end every trip on a beach. But this was really a treat. Even the ride from the airport was beautiful.
Croatia is known for its beaches, and now that I know that there are even more beautiful ones than the ones we went to, Im itching to go back to explore the coastline more.

All those red roofs!.

All those red roofs!.

Our first day there we spent in the Old Town, which is a tiny litte city (you can walk the entire thing in a few hours), on the water surrounded by walls (and you enter by walking over a MOAT!!). We walked a protion of the walls but our timing was terrible (noon) and we were dying in the heat.

I mean come ON!

I mean come ON!

The city itself was so ridiculously adorable I couldnt stand it. Its a little touristy, but just coming from Prague (which was like Vegas in comparison) I didnt really notice it.

The rest of the time we spent at a bay off the Adriatic and swam around in the water. It was super relaxing, and I cant wait to plan another trip entirely to Croatia.

Thats our hotel in the back there (the white building). It was pretty cool, you enter from the top floor, and then take the elevator down into the hotel... its was super beautiful with sweeping views and great decor. But not the best service. 

Thats our hotel in the back there (the white building). It was pretty cool, you enter from the top floor, and then take the elevator down into the hotel... its was super beautiful with sweeping views and great decor. But not the best service. 

Beautiful sunset view from the top of our hotel.

Beautiful sunset view from the top of our hotel.

Anyway, I hope you enjoyed the pictures. I will try to post our photos from Maui soon :) See ya!

 

 

Life Lately. by Mialy DeFelice

Taken during a run. Stop and smell the flowers, am i right?

Taken during a run. Stop and smell the flowers, am i right?

Since its been so long, this will just be a photo update. Mouse over captions for context. :)

Forcin those selfies. (Indian springs, in Calistoga).

Forcin those selfies. (Indian springs, in Calistoga).

Wine tasting up in Napa (Domaine Chandon). About a min after this photo, the wind blew over Eric's glass. :P

Wine tasting up in Napa (Domaine Chandon). About a min after this photo, the wind blew over Eric's glass. :P

Meet Emerson (We have had him for like 5 months now). Eric wouldn't let me give him a middle name (cause he is a cat), so my secret middle name for his is Indigo August. Emerson Indigo August DeFelice, you are cute as hell. 

Meet Emerson (We have had him for like 5 months now). Eric wouldn't let me give him a middle name (cause he is a cat), so my secret middle name for his is Indigo August. Emerson Indigo August DeFelice, you are cute as hell. 

Beggin to be held.

Beggin to be held.

Always brunchin. 

Always brunchin. 

Vanilla and Chocolate almond milk frozen yoghurt, with GRANOLA.... Wha?? This is what dreams are made of. Also kale smoothie in solid-ish form. Yum. Yum.

Vanilla and Chocolate almond milk frozen yoghurt, with GRANOLA.... Wha?? This is what dreams are made of. Also kale smoothie in solid-ish form. Yum. Yum.

Begin Rant: Okay. So lets get real. All our neighbors are OBSESSED with Jasmine. I get it, I get it, it smells beautiful, it grows without an ounce of effort, yada yada. But the truth is, it kills me. It makes me sneeze violently, and my eyes instantly start watering, just by walking by. I secretly hate anyone who plants this devil plant. I am surrounded by it all day every day, all our neighbors, its planted as a normal bush all over the city, and ALL over campus. Ugh, this time of year sucks for me allergy wise. 

Begin Rant: Okay. So lets get real. All our neighbors are OBSESSED with Jasmine. I get it, I get it, it smells beautiful, it grows without an ounce of effort, yada yada. But the truth is, it kills me. It makes me sneeze violently, and my eyes instantly start watering, just by walking by. I secretly hate anyone who plants this devil plant. I am surrounded by it all day every day, all our neighbors, its planted as a normal bush all over the city, and ALL over campus. Ugh, this time of year sucks for me allergy wise. 

Paloma the mini-palm. Our venture with caring for plants begins (...well begins for the millionth time, but this time all our new plants will live, damn it!).

Paloma the mini-palm. Our venture with caring for plants begins (...well begins for the millionth time, but this time all our new plants will live, damn it!).

I cant even.  Insert sad mac here.

I cant even.  Insert sad mac here.

I am experimenting with heels again. (2 inches at a time :))

I am experimenting with heels again. (2 inches at a time :))

Palm Springs. 2016. by Mialy DeFelice

Last weekend we took a long weekend to Palm Springs. We love Joshua Tree, and were able to go this time when it was much cooler than our last time there. The cacti were beautiful as always. Joshua Tree is so photogenic! Enjoy all the pictures!

The remainder of our time there was spent walking around the city, and chilling by the pool. 

I can't wait until it finally gets warm again up here. :) 

Have a good weekend!

Jenna. by Mialy DeFelice

It is unreal to me that it has been 5 months since Jenna passed away. It has not gotten easier, and at times, when I notice the days slipping away, it is harder. I cannot reconcile this loss. And perhaps that's what makes it so hard. It's random and it's unfair. All that are left are memories.

Perhaps my favorite memories of Jenna are of a road trip that we took over winter break my freshman year of college. Despite the fact that Eric and I were broken up, she insisted that the three of us go. Perhaps she had planned it that way, but right after the trip, Eric and I decided to get back together. I do not remember much our our destination (Texas), but like all good road trips, I only really remember the journey. Did you know there is an 18 mile long bridge in Louisiana and its not even the longest bridge in the US? We saw the saddest truck stop, that boasted its own tiger. I remember the indigent look on her face when the McDonalds we stopped at for lunch was still serving breakfast, and the smile that broke after realizing that the time had changed sometime during the drive, so it was still only morning. But my favorite memory of all came after her and Eric got it into their heads that the most fun thing to do, would be to fly a kite out our car... down the interstate. I of course had about a thousand objections, but they were insistent. We went to a bunch of stores looking for a kite... any kite. Like seriously, even a kids kite. But we couldn't find anything. We finally asked someone, and were informed that it was not "kite season". Kite season?! Who knew, right? For some reason this fact has always stuck with me. Why can't you buy kites year round? Perhaps growing up in the south, seasons just don't make any sense, but over the years I have regularly thought about kite season. When is kite season even?

Fast forward 10 years, Eric and I landed in Bali, and what is one of the first sights that we are treated to? You guessed it.. Kites! So. many. kites. And not little beachy kites either. These were intense, and super high in the sky. We asked our driver, and he said they just had a festival, and that over the next few days the kites would come down. We were so excited to tell Jenna when we got back. It was kite season in Bali! While in Sanur, we could see the kites from our hotel room balcony, and I watched over the days as the kites came down. The day we left Sanur was the day Jenna passed. To say I miss her is an understatement. 

How do you say goodbye? Perhaps it will never get easier. Maybe thats what happens when you love someone. 

Sorry, I don't have an ending, I have just been thinking about Jenna and these kites seemingly endlessly.

Double sorry this post is so sad. 

A year in review (2015). by Mialy DeFelice

2015 was wonderful! I have compiled my favorite photo from each month.

My highlights from the year were learning how to run, our trip to Merida and Tulum, Mexico, a visit from my mom, a bunch of amazing hikes, our trip to Bali, a trip to Tahoe for my birthday, starting grad school, and going back home for Christmas for the first time in years and years. It was awesome being able to see most everyone, though a little intense going to three (yes 3) Christmases in one day.

This year we lost one of our greatest friends. I like to think we did a great job at keeping our shit together, but heading home to a Jenna-less Florida, was unequivocally the worst thing ever. I miss her so so much. To apologize for being a Debbie Downer, please enjoy some cute photos of Matisse. 

I understand the top right corner photo is a repeat, but she's too cute to remake the spreads. 

I understand the top right corner photo is a repeat, but she's too cute to remake the spreads. 

Not surprisingly Matisse was super adorbs this year. Aah to be an only cat in a super indulgent household.

The only photos of Eric and I are selfies that I force upon him. You take what you can get.

A year in lounging.

A year in lounging.

My new years resolution is to cook more. After starting school, I got super lazy about the house. My resolution is to make more time to cook. My past resolutions have worked (2014: eat more breakfast, 2015: drink less sugar) so I have super high hopes for 2016. (Hmmm, just realized all my resolutions are food related... but that makes sense I guess, I spend roughly 80% of my free thinking time, trying to decide what I will eat next).

Here's to an amazing 2016!